isnât just for the sexually daring anymore. Itâs becoming more and more common in bedrooms around the world, but donât let that fool you. Backdoor play is a different beast altogether. If you’re trying to convince your girlfriend to have anal sex â and yes, we’re going out on a limb here and assuming it’s your idea â there are a few key pieces of advice you need to hear.
First off, she will either love it or hate it. There is very little in between. Most women have tried it at some point, resulting in one of two feelings: pain or pleasure. And if it was pain, itâs likely sheâs going to be hesitant about trying it again. Youâll have to be extra prepared if youâre going at it for a second time, hoping for more pleasurable results for her.
But if she’s open to it, with a little practice and a lot of patience, youâll be able to enjoy a satisfying anal-sex life. Use a variety of different positionsto make it more fun and comfortable for both of you. Once you know what women love and hate about anal sex, you are ready to rock her world.
It can feel good
Women enjoy anal sex because it feels amazing. It’s a totally different sensation than regular sex. It’s not her vagina, yet it’s inside her. In other words, itâs a completely alien feeling that she isnât used to, which makes it intriguing. Meanwhile, the rectum will just suck up your penis like a vacuum. Play with her clitoris too and youâll really send her into the stratosphere. In fact, itâs even possible for women to have orgasms from anal sex.
Because anal sex is naughty
Almost every woman harbours a fantasy of being a ânaughty girl.â Thereâs a reason people love school girl uniforms and handcuffs: Itâs forbidden and, therefore, all the more delicious and tempting. Anal sex is something you can do in secret and nobody will ever know you were naughty except you and your girl â which is part of the fun. Plus, thereâs the bonding experience of doing something together for the first time, even if itâs just a first for one of you.
First things first: Make sure you have the right gear
Anal sex can hurt like a mofo. The rectum is not built to have things go in; only out. The vagina stretches to let in a penis and give birth, but a rectum does not. Thus you can cause searing pain if you don’t prepare her properly. That means a) asking her first (duh) b) using lube and c) going very slowly and not pounding into her like a jackrabbit.
It’s a mess
Women put so much emphasis on making themselves look pretty and sweet-smelling for their men, so the merest glimmer of a possibility that you might see her explode all over herself is obviously devastating to her. No longer will you see her as a beautiful, desirable woman; you’ll forever be picturing her covered in feces. It’s not exactly the look she’s going for.
For this reason she might decide to avoid anal sex altogether. But if she takes an anal douche ahead of time (or even just a thorough wash-up in the shower) and makes sure her bowels have been emptied an hour before, sheâs almost certain to avoid any messy accidents.
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